Please help....baby's ethnic hair care question?

My daughter and I are both mixed but she has more African American in her than I do. I have a thick curly hair texture and she has the same texture in the front of her hair but the back is tighter curls and more like African American hair. I really don't know what to do with it because of the different textures...what works for one doesn't always work for the other. Also, a huge part of the problem is finding chemicals I can put on her hair that won't irritate her skin. I have tried "Just For Me" products but that seemed to be a little too strong for her skin and very greasy. I've also tried the Johnson's and Johnson's baby shampoo for thick/curly hair along with the J and J detangling leave in conditioner. That's worked wonderfully and her hair was as soft as a newborn's and stayed that way for a few days after but I noticed some skin irritation so I switched to Earth's Best organic baby shampoo by Jason along with organic olive oil and it does NOTHING for the dryness and I'm seeing some skin irritation again. I don't know what to use and also how to style it!!! It is long in some areas and short in others. I usually do the pony-tail thing but that seems to be breaking off her hair on the sides but wen I try to leave her hair natural, it just looks like a dry, all over the place afro....not cute at all. I can't braid it because its too fine and thin in certain areas and I don't want to break it off. It is just a mess, please help